What a great challenge it is to raise children, every human being that enters this world, from Before we are born we begin to be immersed in a complex environment full of guidelines, implicit and explicit parameters, these move slowly and constantly and cause favorability and unfavorability, this is how we see ourselves involved and immersed in complex dynamics that manipulate, guide, restrict and liberate, but fundamentally they are in charge of restricting us in such a way that individuality is diminished.
The Values
One of the characteristics of this dynamic is being seen in the change of the values established many years ago, such as respect, responsibility, love, loyalty, the word, among others, that filled and dignified people.
Today we see how success, beauty and power become aspects that take more and more strength leaving aside what, although it was not perfect, gave guidelines and routes that helped the structuring of the human being.
Currently we are immersed in a logic that not only diminishes autonomy (this happened in the same dynamic years ago), but also massifies in an abrupt and overflowing way, as our children and adolescents are more and more focused onthe external, ostentation, appearance, the evasion of a reality that annuls them and devastatingly guides them towards a facile behavior, where apparently there is no fear but there is much more than imagined.
In this world appear drugs, easy money, overflowing sexuality, prostitution as a means to get money, clothes, among others that point to the “three new values” success, power, beauty. In the midst of all this, restlessness, instability, lack of love for oneself and for others makes growing up in today’s environment a chaos.
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Forming Children: Training for Life, Balance
Training children nowadays is an unfulfillable challenge, but it can undoubtedly be favored in some way if parents train for life, this includes respect for themselves and their children, clear limits “without chatter”, rules, discipline, criteria and formation of the same, unconditional love, corrective measures that attack the fault and not the child, respect for individuality, respect and openness for the child’s feelings, among other aspects that will help in the training.
Raising a child implies having a critical stance towards my own education, seeking to balance what I want to transmit while avoiding to reach The opposite is true, for example, if I was raised with a lot of rules, I let my child do whatever he wants as a compensatory strategy, I had no toys, so I give him as many as I can, among other things that end up generating unfavorable issues like the following: efacism, the demand, the denial of feeling, the or others that in some cases end up being a charge or a discharge rather than a formative plan, creating resentment and even hatred in the child.
The new being requires patience, respect, tolerance, firmness, clarity, love, exigency, discipline in conclusion we could say that it requires a balance between love and limit.
By: Nestor Aguirre Aguirre – Brújula Salud Mental
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